Who do you doubt?
Who do you give the benefit of the doubt?
What does that mean, “Give the benefit of the doubt?”
Just yesterday I was in line at my grocery store and there appeared to be an adult male in front of me checking out also. However, he was texting and the clerk asked multiple times for him to pay as he fingered his device. He didn’t know if he needed a bag. He couldn’t work the card machine without the clerks help.
I made a mistake giving him the benefit of the doubt that he was an adult.
Doubt giving is linked to trust.
Who do you trust?
We say to ourselves, “I believe that person is like me. They think like me, they feel like me, they understand like me.” However, should we do that in every way? Should we proverbially “bend over backwards,” in all situations, in all circumstances?
Some businesses now have a motto on how to deal with customers. “Benefit of intent.” Assume that the customer has no ill intent when dealing with them and their concerns.
Are we to turn a blind eye to intent?
When do we take action when we realize we are being used?
Is there a collective loss of memory that there are bad people in the world doing bad things because that’s their plan?
The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout, PH.D. examines the fact that 1 in 25 Americans secretly have no conscience and can do anything without feeling guilty.
Sociopaths can be your mother, father, sister, brother, uncle, aunt, nephew, niece, grandmother, grandfather, friend, nun, acquaintance, boss, manager, HR person, next-door-neighbor, priest, clerk, charity fundraiser, mail person, reverend, bus driver, celebrity, producer, executive, CEO, senator, congress person, POTUS.
Anyone in your life…
They are the reason why shit happens in the world. The good hearted people, the people with morality are taken advantage of by the sociopath because we collectively believe that everyone is like us. That everyone has morality just like ours.
The sociopath thrives on our collective ignorance of their existence. It’s not as if they don’t know the difference between good and bad. The simple truth is they don’t care. They don’t care who or what they use or destroy as long as they benefit.
Maybe it is time to think about the problems that surround us all and why or who is at the heart of why they don’t get any better.
Doubt and trust should only be reserved for those who are human.
Those without empathy are defined as monsters.