Beginnings

Life begins when you realize you are not the only person who needs love.

Children know they are the center of the world.

Nothing can tell them differently.

Their wishes, their demands, their worldview places them at the center.

Nothing exists beyond the realm of the child’s mind.

They do not understand a reasonable bedtime.

They can’t subsist on one cookie.

Every want, every whim must be fulfilled ASAP.

The adult, the caretaker, is there to fulfill their prejudiced view of how the world works.

Only life experience will have a chance to break through this cosmic certainty.

The first time they feel hunger, and there’s no food that night.

The first time they see their caretaker cry.

The first time a wish goes unanswered.

Slowly…

Slowly…

Given enough time, this child will grow up and hear other voices besides their own.

The voice of despair.

The voice of fear.

Even, even the voice of hope.

The voice of love.

Every human who has ever lived or shall live goes through this cycle.

But not all come out the other side genuinely alive.

Childhood is a type of shell.

A shell that keeps the mind safe from reality.

Experience like a hammer raps raps raps on that shell, asking each of us to come out and play.

Not everyone can break the shell of childhood.

Forever caught in their own head, they can’t hear other people cry.

They refuse to hear the call for justice.

For freedom.

For hope.

For equality.

For love which reaches its never-ending arms around all.

Society, like a forest, is filled with life.

Some are sprouting, some are growing, some have lived a lifetime, and winter has come.

While others are still in the ground, in their shell, waiting for that drop of water of reality to break their shell and lift them up.

To begin.

Peace

DFrey

Change Happens

Standing in the doorway of the schoolhouse.

Putting up a fence between countries.

Between neighbors.

Going to war.

Stopping people from voting.

From living free of violence.

As soon as you stop progress and implement conservative ideals, you actually put into motion a cascade for change.

Stopping change will have the exact opposite of the initial intent.

No part of this universe doesn’t operate around the physical reality of change.

Everything is cooling down.

Eventually, everything in our universe will reach the temperature of absolute zero.

Minus 273 degrees Celsius or for those who resist change minus 459 degrees Fahrenheit.

It’s the temperature at which atoms no longer vibrate.

The temperature of the universe when it is absolutely dead inside.

Human beings have the unique ability to hold two opposing thoughts at the same time.

I love my mother, but I hate what she does.

Human beings can appear alive and active, yet inside they are dead.

Their hearts, their minds have reached absolute zero.

They no longer move.

They stay where their God has intended.

Their God can be ancient in its adherence to resist change or new.

The old Gods of prejudice, racism, elitism, religion, nationalism all preach and inoculate their believers in the ideal of not changing.

Keeping the social order dictated, carved in stone by their founding fathers.

Given the benefit of the doubt, the white man is on top of the pyramid while everyone else below him pays cash.

The human irony.

The human tragedy of this reality is that those who stand in the public space and declare there will be no more change forever… 

They have fired the first shot that will bring about the change they so desperately want to prevent.

Like a dam in a river, the water behind the blockage begins to build.

Through age and poor construction, the dam, no matter how large, how thick, how deep, cannot withstand the pressure of change that builds behind it.

You can’t stop the merry-go-round of life.

Life will find a way.

Life will pour over that dam standing in the doorway of progress.

And what is this progress that change in our society is pushing for?

John Lennon said it… 

Imagine no heaven, no countries, nothing to kill or die for, no religion, no possessions, no greed, no hunger.

A brotherhood of man where we all live in peace, sharing the world this universe together.

As one people in tune with the true nature of life.

Change happens.

I know I’m not the only one.

Peace

DFrey

Pant Load

Are you walking about with a pant load on?

As an empath, I speak from direct observation of our society.

Are you like the average three-year-old walking about with a loaded diaper?

Totally unaware?

Totally unaware of the stink left behind you?

I liken being an empath to being able to see germs.

I see germs.

I see the germs when you’re self-absorbed.

I see the germs when you disregard safety rules.

I see the germs when you neglect to care for others.

I see the germs when you don’t care about yourself.

Our society has waves of people in the wave pool with a pant load on.

They are unaware of the wake of suffering, of pain left behind them.

As Joseph Campbell observed, all of Western Society has lost touch with those rituals that told a person they no longer are a child; they are now an adult.

Children don’t think about the pant load they have on.

Adults do.

Adults can smell the problem and take action.

They clean it up.

The person who blocks the sidewalk, the person who runs you down in the crosswalk, the person who gives you the finger, the person who doesn’t pay taxes, the person who lies to gain power, the person who kneels on your neck all have a pant load on.

They suffer from not having empathy.

They suffer from not even having sympathy.

No one told them they needed to wipe their behinds.

Showed them how to wash their hands.

How to share and be a part of society.

Told them about love and charity.

Like children left to raise themselves, they don’t get what it takes to have a brotherhood of man.

They have no touchstone of what it means to be an adult.

They’re making it up as they go.

Those of us that can see and smell have an obligation.

Our privilege is to tell society to wash up.

Be a teacher, not a preacher.

Get itself right.

Get clean.

Drop hate.

Then join us at the table where love washes down and hope lifts us all up.

Peace

DFrey

What Is Myth?

Myth is a corruption of truth.

Simply, lies that we believe which give us comfort from reality.

Need it put more plainly?

Myth is fairytales we believe are true.

With the added benefit that our fairytale is true and everyone else’s fairytale is a lie.

Myth is a large umbrella that shelters many a human belief.

Under the umbrella of myth, you will find, yes, all the religions of the world.

Both past and present.

But you will also find under that shelter of self-delusion prejudice.

You will find racism, entitlement, apartheid, segregation, urban legend, intellectualism, science deniers, liberals, conservatives, family, and friends all seeking shelter under the umbrella of myth.

You will even find yourself.

The umbrella of myth is a human invention.

It was not given to us mystically.

We created it for a specific reason.

Fear.

Fear of the unknown.

Myth gives us a reason why bad things happen.

Myth tries to remove the random nature of the universe.

Our greatest fear is death.

Consequently, the greatest story we ever made up to tell ourselves are those stories about life after death.

Those stories give us comfort from the inevitable termination of our existence.

If we believe in them, we get a coupon to “live after we die for free.”

It’s obvious why we created such stories.

Fear is the motivation behind all myths.

An example is the fear of the stranger, which motivates racism.

The endless storytelling occurs worldwide and in our homes, businesses, and places of worship.

Those people are not like us; they don’t believe like we do, we’re better.

There is a common theme underlying all the fear that shelters under the umbrella of myth.

That common theme is self.

Selfishness.

I am good, everyone else is bad, I deserve everything I want, I don’t care who I harm to get what belongs to me.

Selfishness.

Selfishness shelters under the belief that it is good to sacrifice the lives and well-being of the other to keep intact the myth.

At all costs.

The sacrifice of family, friends, happiness, but most of all truth, truth is the first and most important thing to destroy to maintain our personal delusions.

Fear will always be with us.

There is only one power in this universe that has the ability to overcome it.

Love.

Love lifts the chokehold of fear so we can see the world as it is and not through our personal expectations.

Love will allow you to see the need in the world, hear the cry for peace, and feel the urgency of now.

Love makes clear that today is the day we do right, not after we’re dead.

Love is the only power that can drive back the night terrors of fear and allows us to live together as we should, not as we imagine.

Peace

DFrey aka Toby

Denial

I’m not fat.

Did I do that?

I don’t have to pay taxes.

It’s not my problem.

Those people are why I don’t have a job.

I have good genes I can’t get cancer.

The weather will get better.

I’m a winner.

Nobody is looking.

My husband has a second job, that’s why he works late.

She’s just in a mood.

Rehab will help.

That charity does good.

My pastor would never lie.

Covid is a hoax to take away my freedom.

Truth makes everyone who can hear it uncomfortable.

Too many of us prefer to be comfortably numb.

So many issues plague us daily. 

From personal to national, it is understandable why some of us want to shut it all out.

There is a wolf at the door.

Unlike the big bad wolf, this creature will be with us all for the rest of Time.

Covid will be here, but the creature I’m referring to is denial.

Denial is the effect.

The cause of denial is the willful ignorance of fact.

No democracy, no nation, no people, no community can peacefully exist when ignorance is put into a place of honor.

The burden of a healthy society is to care for the sick.

The sick include not only those with failing physical health but also those with failing ethical health.

Our brothers and sisters suffer from anxiety of uncertainty.

They fail to consider their responsibility for their own suffering that they have created in their imagination.

They fail to consider that their health, happiness, and freedom are born out of securing those rights for others and themselves.

We rise together.

We fly together.

We reach together.

We overcome together.

Walk away from the dark comfort of denial into the bright community of truth.

It’s your choice.

Peace

Toby aka Daniel J Frey

Why I'm Not Grateful

Is the ocean grateful that the river runs into it?

Is the sky grateful for another cloud?

Is a lion grateful for the hunt?

Are you grateful to be able to vote?

What does it mean to be grateful?

To be grateful implies something was given to us.

Something that was not expected.

Something that we could not achieve on our own.

Something that goes beyond our expectations.

Is the bird grateful it can fly?

No.

It flies because it can.

It is expected.

It doesn’t owe anyone or anything for its rightful ability to take flight.

It’s what it does.

As humans, we should expect to be fed, have shelter, safety, justice, freedom, love.

These rights of life are not given.

These rights are part of the expectation of life.

Our rights as humans.

To be grateful implies these rights are given to us.

By who?

Show them to us!

This is the argument stated in the Declaration of Independence of why our founding fathers were not “grateful” to the King of England.

Since the foundations of civilization, men have corruptly manipulated the weak.

The most insidious is the evil that men do to the minds of the innocent.

The most hateful is the idea that we should be grateful to them.

Grateful that we are allowed to exist.

That’s the implication that is being driven home.

By whom?

By white racist men in the white racist world, in white racist pulpits, in white racist places of power.

They are not giving; they are selling.

They want us all to be grateful to them forever.

They want us to owe them for allowing us to exist.

They want us to be on credit until they say we are paid up.

They want us to be grateful that they allow us to have our sustenance, shelter, safety, justice, freedom, and even our love.

There is no end to this mortgage of suffering.

I get fired up when I’m asked to be grateful for the air I breathe.

I get fired up when I’m asked to be grateful I’m allowed justice.

I get fired up when I’m asked to be grateful I’m allowed to live.

If you want me to be grateful, give me something I don’t have on my own.

Give me an equal opportunity to work.

Give me financial credit.

Give me the freedom of the vote.

Give me respect.

See me.

Peace

DFrey

Original Fear

Children have a fear of the dark.

It is a rational fear to the child because they are still children.

The fear is born out of the belief that the world will change when the child closes their eyes.

A world that changes cannot be predicted.

Not being able to predict the future is an innate, fundamental fear response.

This fear is genuine for all of humanity.

To survive in a hostile environment, regularity, predictability allows for a relaxation of awareness.

Allows rest.

Allows sleep.

Removes fear.

That is why the parent puts on a little light in the child’s room.

This little light illuminates the room, the environment.

The child can peek out from their shut eyes and see the room is still the same.

Sameness allows rest.

Sameness allows sleep.

Removes fear.

That little bit of light of truth allows the child a space of comfort in a hostile world.

We, as the carriers of light, it is our privilege to hold up that little light of truth.

We hold that light of truth up in a hostile world.

That light seen by the fearful gives them comfort.

Gives rest.

Gives peace.

Removes fear.

DFrey

Peace

The Deep

What do you see?

What do you know?

What do you believe?

The surface tells you nothing about what takes place below.

When you live on the surface, the tides are out of your control.

When you fight against the current, you know not what you are up against.

The belief in peace can not equal the faith in the war that has gone on for over two thousand years.

The conflict is in the origin of faith they both love.

Who owns exclusive rights to be seated in the place of honor at the table?

The belief, there can only be one.

Deep water.

To those who live deep under the surface, what takes place up top has nothing to do with their reality.

No matter how much the winds of change may blow, the people of the deep are not moved.

They are insulated from critique.

The people on both sides have chained themselves to an ideology that says they are special. They are the chosen. They will rule over their enemies in life and after death.

They are in love with their conflict.

It fills them with purpose.

It feeds their prejudice.

How do you find a compromise between two opposing people who believe the total destruction of their opposition is required so they may live?

The thousands of children on both sides that have died have not moved them.

The destruction of their community on both sides has not moved them.

The thousands upon thousands who have died on both sides are ignored.

Only the surface of the conflict has ever been addressed.

The window dressings, the easily understood issues, the things that can be whined about without touching the elephant at the bottom of the ocean.

Ther thing that continues this conflict that has not been addressed?

The thing there in the deep waters that brings fear to the peacemakers?

Something so profound that if talked about would shake the foundations of society?

That which shall not be named.

God.

Religion and its structure are at the core.

Either one is right, the other wrong, or both sides are wrong depending upon your own belief.

And there's the rub.

The three religions of the West all claim the same spot on earth as their's and their's alone.

There has never within these three groups been any room for compromise.

King of the hill or ruler of nothing.

Like blind fish in the deep, the faithful follow the voices of hate.

There can be no compromise with those that oppose us as being rulers of humanity.

It's written in the holy books of all three faiths.

The problem is now defined, so what do we do?

We send a message of hope.

We let the people of the deep know that life is possible on the land.

It's a different life than what they have known, but it is life.

We must ask them as many times as needed to understand we share this world with them.

The people on the land and the people of the deep can live together.

There can be peace only if those who live in the deep want it as much as those on the land.

DFrey

Peace

Permanent Record

Guilt.

Guilt is a powerful force in human society.

Guilt will build cathedrals.

Guilt will jump from a bridge.

Guilt keeps the innocent under control by the guilty.

This guilt is not because the person the society has committed a crime.

It's not for killing, or stealing, or destroying.

This guilt is used by those who wield it as a hamstring.

A way to stop progress, the emotional and intellectual development of a society and the individual.

It began long ago when the gods and then a god had to be appeased.

You can't want a thing for yourself unless you give up something of equal or greater value.

Simply, you can't have your cake and eat it too.

You can have a birthday, but you can't enjoy it.

You can have a career, but you must sacrifice your love life.

You can have earth but give up heaven.

Hogwash.

We must peel back the layers of guilt to find the origin of species.

This guilt was created by the ruling class, the aristocrats, kings, and queens.

Guilt kept them in power.

The aristocracy of Europe believes themselves to be the children of Jesus.

Direct genetic inheritance.

They are the physical embodiment of God on earth.

There are not many other positions in society where change is more of a threat to their existence.

You can count on that list the current Republican Party.

Change of awareness, of the removal of the blindfold of ignorance, becomes a direct threat.

Guilt is the weapon of the powerful.

You don't want that because you're not good enough to appreciate it.

That dress won't look good on you; you're fat.

You can't handle the truth.

Your vote doesn't count.

You are not a man.

Not worthy.

Guilt is the slow bleed in the side of hope.

The truth that destroys guilt is that there is no either-or.

You can have a good job and a living wage.

You can vote for a government that serves all the people.

You can have love and happiness too.

There is no permanent record.

No file keeper is checking off if you sacrificed sufficiently to get your heart's desire.

Only men and woman who whisper dark thoughts to innocent minds.

Pushing people into the mud so that they can walk on their backs.

Break the cycle of guilt by keeping your eyes on truth.

Truth is a fire, a light against the darkness of ignorance.

It will lead in directions unsuspected.

Truth sets the innocent and the guilty free.

Peace

DFrey

The GOP Today

What controls the modern Republican Party today is hate born of fear.

The hate is directed at anything, anyone who represents change.

This child called hate is not responsible for its own birth.

This hate is not an immaculate conception.

This hate was born of parents called fear and ignorance.

Fear is the name of the mother of the child of hate.

Fear of the other.

Fear of the stranger.

Fear of sharing.

Fear of truth.

Ignorance is the name of the father of the child of hate.

Ignorance of empathy.

Ignorance of justice.

Ignorance of freedom.

Ignorance of truth

Together fear and ignorance met long ago in the human story.

Fear, ignorance, and their child hate have been why we don't have nice things in society.

Fear, ignorance, and their child hate have been the roadblock, the hurdle, the moat, the barbed wire, the wall that has kept society from reaching the promised land.

They have been the crab in the barrel of life that keeps pulling those back who want to escape the cycle of violence from escaping.

Fear and ignorance didn't produce just one child.

Every generation, another abandoned sibling is added to the orphanage.

This generation's child of hate finds its refuge in social media.

There it feeds upon the prejudice with relish and abandon.

Before today the children of hate had to gather in secret, in the woods, with hoods.

Now they take pictures of themselves as they desecrate the house of the people.

Fear finds refuge in the pulpit.

Every Sunday in America, it is taught that God ordained an order to the universe.

In that order, the white man is on top of the pyramid.

Fear is given shelter when it's declared that the mixing of the races is an abomination in God's eyes.

The white race must stay pure and faithful to God's word.

Fear sees the browning of America and the world as the end times.

The time when their savior will return and kill all the enemies of the white man and make him ruler of the earth forever.

They are the chosen people.

Fear finds a play companion with those who hate other religions.

The babysitters of fear like Putin, Trump use the fear of the Islamic religion to incite violence.

To get what they believe is theirs politically, financially.

It's what unites the Republican Party this fear both politically and financially.

The fear that white people and their God will be replaced by brown people and their God.

This child of fear knows it's right when it sees Black Lives Matter marches.

This child of fear knows it's right when it can't make jokes about a person's race anymore.

This child of fear knows it's right when they can't get a job at a living wage.

This fear knows it's doomed when their white savior is not re-elected, President.

Is there a way to stop the hate?

No.

No, there isn't.

The child of hate is not the source of the problem.

The source of the problem that threatens to destroy the American democracy is fear and ignorance.

The parents of the children of hate need to attend a family planning session.

Their fear needs to be listened to.

Fear needs compassion.

Fear needs to feel safe.

Ignorance is the harder of the two parents of fear to help.

Ignorance cannot be told what to do or that it's wrong.

If you do, it will only lash out and destroy anyone, anything that comes to tell it the truth.

Ignorance can only learn through example and consequence.

Love, compassion, and sharing have to be lived and demonstrated as a path to happiness.

Through living a life of love, ignorance will eventually catch on; there is a better way than nihilism and destruction.

It is up to every generation to pick up the torch of freedom and carry on the fight.

Drop hate be love.

Peace.

DFrey

Immune

Walking by a local restaurant, I see people enjoying their immunity. 

Apparently, they are immune not only to the COVID-19 virus.

Our brothers and sisters are immune to society.

Immune to community.

Immune to compassion.

Immune to brotherhood.

Immune to love.

How did these people get their vaccine?

The answer is Blowing In The Wind, written by Bob Dylan.

He asked, how many roads must a man walk down before you call him a man?

How many years can some people exist before they are allowed to be free?

How many times can a man turn his head and pretend he just doesn't see?

The answer appears to be hate is seeded generation after generation.

By people, humans who believe they are doing good work.

Mothers and fathers.

Brothers and sisters.

Churches, schools, governments, police.

All keep the story alive.

The great white myth.

I'm telling you here and now if you don't know this in your heart of hearts already.

People have been making up stories to keep them from seeing reality since before recorded time.

They have told themselves these stories so many times that these tales are embedded into the human psychology.

In the Hero's Journey by Joseph Campbell, "Myth is much more important and true than history."

Human's capacity to believe in their own myth is limitless.

They will believe in ghosts.

In Leprechauns.

Their team will win a sports championship.

The 2nd Amendment can't be amended.

Tom Hanks eats babies.

White people are ordained by God to rule the earth.

The only balance to myth is truth.

Yet truth is harsh, and myth is smooth.

Truth goes against our expectations, and myth feeds our prejudices.

Some of us are lucky to be born able to see the beauty of the world.

While others have turned down that privilege and have focused their sight inward.

They don't want to know about the cannonballs flying.

They don't want to see the man beaten down in the street.

They don't want to hear people cry.

Just as hate is seeded every generation, so too must love be grown in every generation.

Any gardener can tell you it's a continuous battle against the weeds.

We have to tend the garden of truth to keep out the weeds that would choke it out.

If you have hands, lift; if you have ears, listen; if you have a voice, speak up.

If you have a mind, love.

Peace.

DFrey

Labor Costs

American businesses have been indulged in living in a fantasy dream world where labor and material cost nothing…

The root of the belief comes from the story of slavery.

The belief in the relative value of one person.

Business has always fought for a discount.

Slavery eliminated the cost of labor in so much as it did away with paying for a service.

Slavery maximized profit.

Profit is the god of business.

What does it profit a man to own the whole world and lose their soul?

It’s all easy money when you don’t believe souls exist.

The world over has been manipulated, coerced, beaten, killed, cajoled, bribed, marketed to believe what’s right for business is good for the people.

Unfortunately for the sake of the welfare of the people, they have bought what business has sold.

Slavery teaches that some people have more value than others.

Those at the top of the pyramid, the leaders, have more value than those that support them in their position.

The needs of the few, the one, outweigh the needs of the many.

Without me, you wouldn’t survive echo’s down the hallways of the tyranny of man over mankind.

This slavery that has dominated mankind has been at war with the people economically, socially, and morally.

What has every war been about?

The Crusades, The French and American Revolutionary wars, the American Civil war, the First, the Second World Wars, Korea, Vietnam, Iraq, the Drug War, the Immigration Crisis, civil rights, women’s rights all are about who pays the cost of production.

Or better…

Who profits.

In America today, the Republican Party has purposefully transformed itself from a conservative business party to a white nationalists party.

They’ve seen the future, and they don’t like the idea of sharing the profits.

They believe in the advertising that their white, blonde, blue eyed god, who sanctioned the creation of a white America to dominate the world.

They tell each other this online on social media, at work, at play, and from their pulpits.

They were comfortable in their dream world where all things came to them at no cost.

Yet while their brain, their consciousness was asleep, the body of America took a pill called freedom.

In their sleep, the body of America swallowed a draft of water called justice.

Now some 240 years later, white business Americas have woken up with a belly ache.

They are angry they have been awoken from their slumber.

They are fighting and willing to burn the American ideal of freedom to the ground.

Who dares disturb the rulers of the earth?

All so they can go back to sleep.

All the violence they foment so they can be indulged in not having to pay the price of freedom.

Freedom for all means freedom for all.

If we are to turn the corner on this fight for freedom in this nation, it’s up to all of us to make Americans deal with reality.

The fantasy has to stop.

We no longer can indulge the morally bankrupt children that there are no costs to justice.

Put the coffee on, walk around the room, stretch, rub the sleep of indifference out of your eyes.

A new day is upon us all right quick.

Peace

DFrey

Help Not Wanted

Start with the British Red Coats.

They believed they were the good guys.

The Confederate States believed they were the good guys.

The German and Japanese fascists believed they were the good guys.

The Red Revolution in China believed they were the good guys.

The Klan believes they are the good guys.

Today the Proud Boys, Boogaloo, Q believe they are the good guys.

The Republican Party believes they are the good guys.

Every one of these groups, organizations, clubs has a sign out front.

That sign says, help not wanted.

What does that mean?

To want help, you first must come to realize you need help.

You get a flat tire, there’s no spare, you call AAA to get help.

The storm blows the roof off of your house.

You call your insurance because you need that roof overhead repaired.

You have a toothache.

Do you knock it out of your head like Tom Hanks?

No, you go to a dentist because they have the knowledge on how to help you.

Help not wanted.

Most of us can recognize when we need physical help.

We have a broken bone, a cut, an illness.

But a large group of Americans doesn’t realize they need moral help.

They can’t see the fairy tales of the white hood have become ingrained in their cultural beliefs.

They can’t feel their temperature rise as loud, selfish tyrannical voices command them to obey.

They can’t hear people cry as they deny them the right to exist.

They don’t need any help because their god is on their side.

They know power makes right.

They are defending their race.

They are defending their belief.

This is why they can’t be helped.

Help not wanted.

The only way to change the course of a river is through real effort.

To redirect to control floodwaters, civil engineering takes decades of continuous effort.

To have a civil society takes decades of continuous effort.

The waters of strife, of dissonance, of anger and hate will go where they will.

The rain will fall.

But we are not predestined to drown in a flood of hate.

We can build dams of justice.

We can build bridges of compassion.

We can lift the ideal of the beloved community to be real, not just a hope.

But remember, help not wanted?

Don’t throw your effort, your life into a job where you are not wanted.

Go make the light of peace, of brotherhood.

The lost will come to dry off of their own free will.

Peace

DFrey